I am an emotionally naked TEDx speaker, and author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind and co-author with Kim O'Brien PhD, LICSW of Emotionally Naked: A Teacher's Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk.
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Your task today is to tell someone so you can get the help you deserve.Īrticle on The Mighty: How to tell my parents I want to die. Make a comment here if you want to practice or have a question. You looked this up which is the first step. If you leave us, then you take with you the gifts that we have not even realized you have. If you are really feeling like dying by suicide right now, do not wait. You can ask someone to tell another human on your behalf. You can call a local crisis line together (741-741). So never underestimate how your sharing your soul with another human helps another person. And they feel thankful they could help you. But once they absorb the news, most people feel honored that someone trusted them with such personal information. Right at first, the person you tell will probably feel scared because this is so serious. The person you choose to tell may say something like, “You have so much to live for!” Or, “You shouldn’t feel that way.” It’s not the right thing but be patient with them. I will always regret that I missed the opportunity to ask. My son Charles died by suicide and after his death, I realized he wanted to tell me he was thinking of killing himself in that last phone call. You can tell someone in a message, on the phone, or write it in a note and hand it to that person while you are there. I don’t understand these feelings of suicide and they scare me.”Īdd your own personal struggles. When I have these thoughts I feel like I don’t have control. Can you listen? I have been thinking of killing myself and I need help. “I have something very important to tell you. That’s why it’s important to be very direct.ĭon’t use phrases like, “I want to hurt myself.” You must be clear because the human you are talking to will not take it as seriously. If you do tell someone, you worry people will think you are joking. And then commit to telling that person you chose. Make a list or mental note of 1-3 people you would tell. You can also tell a stranger at a crisis line. If you are a student, you could tell a teacher, school counselor, or visit a counselor at college. The person you choose could be a parent, aunt, uncle, minister, doctor, coach, therapist, partner, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, co-worker, human resources manager, or friend. “Are they less likely to lecture or try to fix you?”.“Is the person you are thinking less likely to judge others?”.Who should you tell?Ĭhoose someone who is compassionate. Telling someone is how you can ask someone to help you save your own life. You’ve managed to live through those episodes and you know how difficult that was. I know you have the courage because you have endured and fought these thoughts. And you have sunsets to see, people to fall in love with, and lives to save with your story. But the alternative is that you might die if you don’t.
There is fear sharing your thoughts of suicide. So that’s why you have to be very direct and bare your soul. They don’t understand those feelings–how persistent, invasive, convincing and life-threatening they are. If they don’t understand right at first, it may be because they can’t believe your life would be so bad you’d want to end it. That’s why it’s important to choose the right kind of person (section below on how to choose the right person). Will the person you tell freak out? Will they think of you as weak or selfish? Will they believe you? I won’t lie. However, what you think is obvious just is not to others. You may even think you’ve been leaving clues that seem like flashing neon signs and no one is picking up on them which makes you think they don’t care. And it’s frightening to think of baring your deepest darkest hurt to another human being. It’s hard to know what to say or to whom. I know you want to tell someone but you are afraid to.
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